Want to know the secret to good anal sex versus great anal sex? Check out these tips from real anal sex lovers!
1. Incorporate Sex Toys
Don’t just start off with penetration. Work your way up to it! A small flared dildo, a curved butt plug or a prostate toy with a handle can rock your world — and have you ready for penetration by something larger before you know it.
If you’re not into toys, you can simply stick to anal fingering. Have your partner start by massaging and kneading your butt and move toward your anus. Stimulation just outside your puckered starfish can feel fantastic, and you can stick to this until you’re ready for penetration!
2. Use Lube
The vagina naturally lubricates; the anus doesn’t. Of course it’ll be more uncomfortable if you don’t use lube! Many anal lovers opt for a thicker lube, and these gels are typically water-based. Check out System Jo’s Anal H2O lubricant or the warming variant if you want a little temperature play!
Silicone-based lubes are what the doctor ordered if you prefer a slicker lube that will be longer lasting. Try System Jo Women Premium for a smooth anal ride! Make sure to spot test with any silicone toys, first.
Both water- and silicone-based lubes are condom friendly!
The best anal sex is had between partners who do a bang-up job of letting each other know what they want and need! If you’re silent about your needs, you could wind up grinning and bearing it with your partner none the wiser. Because the rectum is so sensitive, this could easily result in tears or pain that deter you from trying any backdoor play in the future!
So let your partner know what you like and what you don’t. Moan appreciatively, or let them know that you’d prefer slower thrusts or more foreplay. After all, if it leads to great anal sex, isn’t it worth it?
Whether it’s your first time or your fortieth, these tips can make anal sex amazing!