When it comes to being in a relationship, discord is natural at times. Even if you are in love or are very close, you can’t expect to agree on everything. Couples can use disagreements to vent, to let off steam, and sometimes, to better understand each other. Here are the three best ways for couples to fight without destroying their relationship:
1. Don’t avoid the disagreement.
You’ve probably heard the phrase, “denial is not just a river in Egypt.” If you’ve ever lived in a state of denial or been around someone who was in denial, you know it can be destructive. Don’t avoid confrontation and the reality of a disagreement. Dealing with it upfront with honesty is best.
2. Set some boundaries and ground rules.
If you have a hard time being nice in arguments, you are not alone. When our emotions are stirred up, many of us are not at our best or kindest. Setting some limits and boundaries ahead of time about how the conversation will go- such as agreeing not to interrupt each other- can really help.
3. Acknowledge the other person’s point of view.
We all like to be right, and it’s natural to believe in your own point of view. However, sometimes situations can be interpreted in multiple ways. Also, you and your partner have been brought up in different households and have different internal emotional make-ups. How you view emotions, relationships, and the world around you could be very different. Listening openly and acknowledging their point of view can make your argument more productive.